Everyone knows I'm not exactly the most kind person nor the most attractive human being and I have a rather shitty personality. Okay, maybe not rather, I do have a shitty personality... I think I just forgot the point of this text.
What I'm trying to say is that I know I'm not exactly the type of girl guys would go for (shocking, I know), and that is perfectly fine.
Now, what bugs me is that how... most people nowadays think that being in a relationship equals to constant happiness. I've spent a lot of times by myself, I'm not exactly engaged in a relationship; this doesn't mean that I'm not happy. Just because you don't have a partner, this doesn't mean that you can't be happy. Depending your happiness to someone else, to someone else's existence is fucking ridiculous and is a dangerous thing.
I've gone to malls and theaters by myself just because I feel like it, but every time--and by this I mean every fucking time I do so, do you know what most of my friends (and probably most people) would say?
"Yaelah, sedih amat jalan sendirian doang."
NOW HOW ABOUT YOU HOLD THE FUCK UP FOR A SECOND. The very first thing that I decided to go out is because I was not entertained, I was bored out of my mind. Why did I go out? To fucking entertain myself, to make myself happy, to refresh my mind from the bullshits that you people gave me. Just because none of you was willing to accompany me, does that stop me from being happy? No, it does not, for crying out loud, get yourself off your high horse. You want to watch that new movie you've been waiting for? Go watch it. You want to buy that book or dress or make-up or whatever it is that you want to buy? Go buy it. You don't exactly have to ask someone to accompany you to do so, stop being so dependent on other people, stop acting like a child.
Now, I'm not saying that it's bad to be dependent on someone, it's just that it's bad if you lay so many things to other people when you, yourself, are able to do that very thing yourself. It doesn't feel bad at all, to be honest, trust me.
I'm saying this because it's apparent that there are so many people that think just because no one wants to be around them, they worth less than they actually are. Example, people often ignore you, and this often hurts you, right? Well, guess what? Flash news; you can't exactly be someone's number one forever. People have other things that they may find more important than you, but that's okay, because even if you feel like you're putting that person as your number one, sometimes, even though you may not realize it, you eventually will put other things as your number one. Now, how do you prevent this from happening? You can't. The only thing that you can do is to put yourself as your number one. Always. Because that's the only thing that you'll get stuck with forever. Other people or other things will always come and go, but you're the only thing that will be there from the first to the very end. As in what All Time Low might say, 'love yourself so no one has to'.
Knowing your value brings many great things to you. You'll never scoop so low for a partner that you know will treat you like shit, because you know you could do so much better than that. You won't crave for anyone's attention--for anyone's love and approval, because you know how fabulous and amazing and awesome you are.
This does not imply that I think relationships are bad for you, either, it's a good thing, to be honest, because, hell, who wouldn't want a side-kick for you to annoy and tease the fuck out of? And sometimes we have our own limits that we would then would need to turn to someone for help. Just, think of it more like this: 'I don't need you to complete me in this journey, I complete myself, but I think it would be awesome for you to ride this along with me.'
One thing that this will also help you to do is save you from the heartbreaks that are unpreventable. You get too attached to someone when it's really an inevitable thing for them to leave at some point and either way, it will hurt, but I believe it will hurt less and will give you less energy on trying to move on, because you'll get attached to less people. Also know that if someone leaves you, that means that that person doesn't worth you nor your time. They walked out of your life, then it's their loss, not yours. People come and go, and that's fine, just be thankful that they were a part of your life, even if it doesn't last forever.
Go treat yourself something instead of hoping someone will treat you instead. Do what you want, do what you like to do. Peace out, ya arseholes.
Now, I'm not saying that it's bad to be dependent on someone, it's just that it's bad if you lay so many things to other people when you, yourself, are able to do that very thing yourself. It doesn't feel bad at all, to be honest, trust me.
I'm saying this because it's apparent that there are so many people that think just because no one wants to be around them, they worth less than they actually are. Example, people often ignore you, and this often hurts you, right? Well, guess what? Flash news; you can't exactly be someone's number one forever. People have other things that they may find more important than you, but that's okay, because even if you feel like you're putting that person as your number one, sometimes, even though you may not realize it, you eventually will put other things as your number one. Now, how do you prevent this from happening? You can't. The only thing that you can do is to put yourself as your number one. Always. Because that's the only thing that you'll get stuck with forever. Other people or other things will always come and go, but you're the only thing that will be there from the first to the very end. As in what All Time Low might say, 'love yourself so no one has to'.
Knowing your value brings many great things to you. You'll never scoop so low for a partner that you know will treat you like shit, because you know you could do so much better than that. You won't crave for anyone's attention--for anyone's love and approval, because you know how fabulous and amazing and awesome you are.
This does not imply that I think relationships are bad for you, either, it's a good thing, to be honest, because, hell, who wouldn't want a side-kick for you to annoy and tease the fuck out of? And sometimes we have our own limits that we would then would need to turn to someone for help. Just, think of it more like this: 'I don't need you to complete me in this journey, I complete myself, but I think it would be awesome for you to ride this along with me.'
One thing that this will also help you to do is save you from the heartbreaks that are unpreventable. You get too attached to someone when it's really an inevitable thing for them to leave at some point and either way, it will hurt, but I believe it will hurt less and will give you less energy on trying to move on, because you'll get attached to less people. Also know that if someone leaves you, that means that that person doesn't worth you nor your time. They walked out of your life, then it's their loss, not yours. People come and go, and that's fine, just be thankful that they were a part of your life, even if it doesn't last forever.
Go treat yourself something instead of hoping someone will treat you instead. Do what you want, do what you like to do. Peace out, ya arseholes.
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